In this article, I discuss three mistakes that make a woman ignore a man. Remember, women will only be able to sustain positive emotions for so long. It’s only a matter of time before she withdraws or gets upset for some reason.
#1 Behavioral Mistakes
A woman’s attraction for you comes from your behavior and your attitude, not specific sentences or words that you say. I could tell you step-by-step what to say to a woman when you’re with her, but this would only paralyze you as you would be trying to follow a checklist. Conversations and human interactions are organic.
The best advice I can give you when it comes to interacting with a woman to make yourself more attractive is to keep it light, relaxed, and playful. What a lot of men don’t realize and what is even more powerful is when communication is holding you back. What I mean by this is being able to make her work for your attention and invest in you. Don’t feel as though you have to carry the conversation and entertain her, this is a big mistake.
Remember, it’s about getting her to invest in you more than you invest in her. That way she will respect you and appreciate you more. She will also be much less likely to ignore you and pull away from you. You want her to see you as more alpha, powerful and dominant when you interact with her. The best way to do this is to hold back.
#2 Communication Mistakes
If you’re talking too much to her on the phone or always responding to her messages, even if she is reaching out, it might not be enough to make her come to you and spike her attraction. This can result in a woman ignoring you and pulling back her interest and attention.
If you just talk to her too much on the phone, then she will feel emotionally satisfied and satiated that you are still there to listen to her and that you’re always going to be around. This does nothing to stir anxiety, excitement, mystery or challenge. You need to get her to really feel something for you here and the only way to do that is to make her feel anxiety, uncertainty, challenge, and mystery. To create a sense of anticipation and excitement.
You show this through subtle actions, not by talking. Don’t try to fill in any awkward silences and delay your responses as though you are thinking about an answer. This will give her the sense that you are in control and you are not trying too hard to carry the conversation.
One thing I notice with women is if they sense that a man is carrying the conversation, they will think he is trying too hard and subconsciously perceive him as lower value. The best way to overcome this is to let her do a lot of the heavy lifting and talking.
If things don’t improve and she continues to ignore you or treat you with indifference, the next time she reaches out to you (just to chitchat), delay your response by a day or two, or don’t even respond at all.
The point of this is not to be passive aggressive, but to let her know that you’re losing interest in just “talking” to her as a friend. You need to send the signal that someone else might have caught your interest or you’re simply getting bored with her. If she calls you out on it, simply tell her that you’re busy.
You need to get her to worry that she has to see you and close the distance with you if she is to recapture your attention and not lose you forever.
#3 You’re Too Needy and Responsive
If you have been too nice, too available, too responsive, this type of behavior will often lead to a woman ignoring a man. In a similar way, if you’re too needy and responsive then you crush attraction and her desire for you.
Keep in mind, there are certain types of women who always pull away at some point (young women often indulge in this kind of behavior). Even when you’re doing everything right, it’s common for a woman to pull away and temporarily check out of the relationship. Expect it to happen, even in the good times.
As I’ve mentioned before in some of my previous videos and articles, a woman ignoring you (temporarily) is nothing to worry about because it’s so common.
I’ve lost count of the number of women who have pulled away from their boyfriends. Everything is going great. There is high attraction, a lot of sweet talk, and a lot of intimacy, then BAM! Right out of nowhere the girl pulls away and starts to ignore the man. And according to female logic, it’s your fault for allowing her to rush the seduction.
An Easy Fix
It’s an easy fix as long as you don’t get rattled and give in to your emotions in this situation and become emotionally unstable. When a woman ignores you and pulls away, she either needs space, feels the need to test you, or feels as though the relationship is progressing too fast and she needs to slam the brakes on.
Do you try to spend as much time as you can with her when times are good because you want to savior every moment? Does it feel like everything is moving forward very fast before she pulls away? If the answer is yes then you can see a familiar pattern developing here. When she comes to you, she gets a predictable response.
You make yourself available, you dive head first into the relationship. And then the inevitable pull away happens and she ignores you. It’s essential to adjust your expectations here. You’re not going to lose a girl just because she ignores you. The only guys who lose the girl are the ones who panic and try to chase a girl back.
You know this is the wrong thing to do. Adjusting your expectations, means understanding that it’s okay for a girl to pull away, even for a couple of weeks. It might not be right, it is rude on her part to do this, and you are going to feel disrespected. Right or wrong, it’s becoming increasingly common for women to pull away out of nowhere.
Women have erratic emotions. These emotions are up and down. It doesn’t matter if you do everything right, a woman will eventually pull away at some point in time. The only thing you need to know is that if she does pull away, you must mirror her emotions and also pull away in response. Don’t think that she’s any different to any other woman–she’s not. She will respond and act the same way.